Self-Esteem Can Affect Your Health
By: Michael Appleman, M.S.
Thinking healthy is a very important part of a burn survivor's recovery. It is easy to say your health depends on your
positive and negative thoughts.
When first becoming a burn survivor or family member of one, you go through a hard and unexpected time in your life. It is not easy to control the negative thoughts and make
the positive changes in your life. For a burn survivor, you depend on your doctors, nurses, family members and others to help you recover. Much of your thoughts can be negative,
which has much to do with your self-esteem. Thinking negative will cause you to feel like you are not worth much. The visual change can cause you to feel ugly and a bad person.
You will then behave in that way.
Anger and depression has a lot to do with self-esteem. Anger and depression has a direct affect on your health. Your body may
become exhausted after defending against your negative and stressful thoughts. All of us need to view ourselves an individual who is not a 'bad' or inadequate person. Do not
live your life with a feeling of failure. You can achieve a sense of high self-esteem.
Born To Be A Healthy Individual
When you are born, with your parents help, you have positive feelings about yourself. You do not even know about low self-esteem.
You learn low self-esteem from your experiences in life.
Studies have shown that most children under the age of one year, are joyful individuals. As we all mature and go through failures,
we are required to learn and see the good in those encounters. That will result in tolerating your mistakes, learning from them and moving forward. It is very important to
understand and accept that you are not born 'bad'. Once that is accepted, you will understand that you can do something about your negative feeling. Realize that type of feelings,
are not built-in and unchangeable.
Your Subconscious Mind
Your feelings occur from your subconscious mind. They are reactions to what you feel and accomplish. You have no conscious control over these reactions. If you think unconstructive thoughts, or think you are a terrible human being, your subconscious mind is going to respond to those beliefs. When you look upon what happens as harmful, you will react with fear, guilt, distress or anger regardless of the real situation. When you think positive thoughts about
yourself or see the good in what happens, your subconscious will react with feeling of admiration, satisfaction, pleasure, happiness, love, and other positive feelings. This does not mean that destructive things will not occur. It does mean you can be in charge of how your respond to them and how they will influence you. When a destructive incident is finished, for example, you can either continue to feel anguish or you can see it as something you dealt with and feel good about yourself. Learn to see the good in each event in your life.
Negative Stress Hurts
When your self-esteem is low, you feel bad about yourself over 50% of the time. You see things mostly from a negative viewpoint and thus you experience negative emotions. This results in ongoing negative stress, which is often felt as fear, anger, worry, and dissatisfaction about most of what you are experiencing or thinking. This constant distress can severely strain your body and may lead to many types of distress-related health problems as your body tries unsuccessfully to compensate for this constant negative stress.
Normal Stress & Incorrect Timing
If you experience fear or anger when something physically threatens you, this is the minds normal survival response. An example is when you see a fire. You feel fear, your adrenaline would run at a rapid pace and you would either go to a safe area or run away if possible. These reactions are caused by terror, fight or flight syndrome. In today's culture your mind may generate the same psychological manifestation as a result of the fire's attack on the human body when you experience stress from other people or things. These feelings may be hatred, fright, anger, or a multitude of other harmful emotions and may be felt when there is no physical risk. They are basically in your mind and you may not react negatively. Thoughts combined with feelings creates emotional makeup. When this occurs unconstructively, you may have a timing issue. Your body and emotions respond to a threat. If the functioning you develop in reply to the risk remains after the "confrontation" is over, the outcome is a timing difficulty. Over time this unrelieved stress may cause many health problems. This is what occurs to individuals who have low self-esteem. They continually experience fear when it has stopped. Their ideas generate negative makeup in their bodies.
Changes That Create High Self-Esteem
First you must have an apparent awareness that that you are truly an excellent individual. Then look at all the negative thoughts that disturb you. Look at all the injuries you have received from other people and all those you have caused other people. It is very important to look at all of these issues.
The following steps can help you achieve a high self-esteem:
A. Pardon others for any hurt they might have caused you.
B. Offer them permission to excuse you for any destruction you may have caused them.
C. Pardon yourself for any damage that you may have caused yourself.
Those steps must be completed in order to help your self. You can even ask for forgiveness from an individual that is no longer alive. The experiences you recall are alive in your own mind. Concealed feelings are never forgotten and sooner or later it will bring about pain and sorrow. Forgiveness is the means to correcting experiences in life. Keep in mind, you are chained slave to someone you hate.
They may be completely happy, while you become ill living with negative feelings. You must vigorously deal with the causes of your negative thoughts. Once that is completed, you can begin the procedure of changing your practice of thinking negatively about yourself and others. You can intentionally see the "good" in events and people instead of the bad. You can learn from any negative actions and have a chance to better yourself and grow. By seeing the "good" in every happening in your life, you will be on the road to building higher self-esteem and regaining your good health.
Self Perception Makes The Difference
When you feel good about yourself and have a high self-esteem, the distress of negative thoughts disappears. Is that a simple thing to do? Not always, but that does not mean you should give up. You must begin to take the steps in order to repair any damage that has been done to your mind and body. Get the help you need in order to do so. With the help from you doctor, you can reach the natural balance that you had when you were born. By adjusting
your diet, which can help your body achieve natural health, your self-esteem should continue to get higher. In time you will reach your goals of good health and happiness. That will result from the power that results from a healthy mind and body.
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